One of the hardest things for me is knowing that someone is hurting, but not knowing why or how to help. I find myself poking and prodding until the person eventually explodes, which is obviously not the right way to handle things. How can we empathize with someone if we don’t know what’s going on in their lives? How can we be present and lend a helping hand?
First of all, it is important to not overstep. Even with close friends and loved ones, we need to accept that sometimes, it’s just not our business. Constantly pushing a person to spill out their obstacles almost always results in anger and even damage to relationships. It’s okay if you don’t have all the details—you can still be there for that person.
Giving love and support is sometimes more powerful than advice. Telling a person that you love and care about them is often all it takes to provide comfort and security. It is hard, especially for me, when it seems almost impossible to console someone due to a situation that you have no control of. This is when offering your support and time is the best thing to do. Ranting and/or getting things out in the open is a great way to blow off steam, and it makes anyone feel better to get something off their chest.
When all else fails, be present. Being there for someone, whether it be in person, on the phone, or even over text, giving up small amount of your time and energy to listen or console a person is the best thing to do.
Isaiah 41:10 says:
“So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.”
All will be well when you have trust in the Lord.