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Love Yourself First

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Happy Valentine’s Day, y’all! I’m writing this message as a personal plea to Love Yourself First!

Around this time last year, a friend and I were sulking together—relishing in the fact that we would be single for Valentine’s Day.  We saw how pitiful we were acting and decided that instead of giving in to the Hallmark Holiday that is Valentine’s Day, we would celebrate “Galentine’s Day”—a day devoted to friendship and self-love.

 The creator of the holiday, Leslie Knope, from the television series, Parks and Recreations, describes Galentine’s Day as a holiday for “Ladies celebrating ladies. It’s like Lilith Fair, minus the angst. Plus frittatas”.

Spending Galentine’s Day with my best friend was immensely more fun than spending it consumed in the stresses of buying material goods that represent an overcommercialized view of love.  In reality, we must love ourselves before being able to truly accept the love of others.

To love ourselves is to accept our flaws, and ignore the criticism of others.  Your self-worth is not defined by the surface of your personality.  You go so much deeper than people are willing to dive in to…all of us do.  Criticisms are based off of a small amount of knowledge that again, does not define a person.  The criteria that others put in place for you is not the guide in which to live your life.  Be a confident and strong individual, and do not conform to what others expect you to be.

Valentine’s Day is a holiday meant to spread love and kindness, but it has turned into a commercialized monster.  Love is shown in many other ways than through monetary value.  Instead of focusing on the stress of Valentine’s Day, focus on yourself.  Find ways to love yourself and find your self-worth, rather than spending time and money on a holiday that should be celebrated every day.  We should not need a holiday to tell us when to express love.  Show love when you feel the need rather than when a holiday tells you it is a requirement.  Love others, and learn to love yourself.

~ ♡ Presley

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Be Present for Friends in Need

IMG_7003.jpgOne of the hardest things for me is knowing that someone is hurting, but not knowing why or how to help.  I find myself poking and prodding until the person eventually explodes, which is obviously not the right way to handle things.  How can we empathize with someone if we don’t know what’s going on in their lives?  How can we be present and lend a helping hand?

First of all, it is important to not overstep.  Even with close friends and loved ones, we need to accept that sometimes, it’s just not our business.  Constantly pushing a person to spill out their obstacles almost always results in anger and even damage to relationships.  It’s okay if you don’t have all the details—you can still be there for that person.

Giving love and support is sometimes more powerful than advice.  Telling a person that you love and care about them is often all it takes to provide comfort and security.  It is hard, especially for me, when it seems almost impossible to console someone due to a situation that you have no control of.  This is when offering your support and time is the best thing to do.  Ranting and/or getting things out in the open is a great way to blow off steam, and it makes anyone feel better to get something off their chest.

When all else fails, be present.  Being there for someone, whether it be in person, on the phone, or even over text, giving up small amount of your time and energy to listen or console a person is the best thing to do.

Isaiah 41:10 says:

“So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.”

All will be well when you have trust in the Lord.

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Live for the NOW

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Hi everyone! I hope you’ve had a fantastic few weeks!  For a while now I’ve been stressed about the future—where will I go to college? what will I do when I get there? what’s the plan after that?!

As a high school student, I am constantly pressured to make life altering decisions that I am much to indecisive to commit to.  As an eighth grader I was told to choose a “career path” that enforced elective classes that would prepare a student for their college major.  How and why does a school system expect kids to know the outline of their life at fourteen years old?!

We are put under so much pressure to decide our future, but I think its high time that we live for the now.  Living in the moment is an easy way to impact your mental state.  Now, I’m not saying to completely block out the future.  Consider how your decisions now will impact your life later, but if you have the chance to spend time with people you love, or go do things you won’t always have the opportunity to do, please go out and do it!  Youth is fleeting and the cacoon of high school doesn’t last forever.

“You must live in the present, launch yourself on every wave, find your eternity in each moment.  Fools stand on their island of opportunities and look toward another land. There is no other land; there is no other life but this.” —Henry David Thoreau

Enjoy doing what you love with people you love, and stress will melt away.  Live for the now, and don’t stress too hard for the future, everything always seems to work itself out.

Spend your week enjoying the little things, and find sunshine in every day life.  Take a moment to slow down in this already fast paced world.  Sit and ponder and laugh and love.  Life is short, keep a steady pace and enjoy the simple things before life gets in the way.

P.S. if you see a colorful wall, don’t be afraid to go and take pictures in front of it—it’s the little things that radiate joy.

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